The Public Speaking Imposter Syndrome — Part 2

Posted on 20Aug

The Public Speaking Imposter Syndrome — Part 2

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{3 minutes to read} In Part 1 of this series, we looked at whether taking classes and coaching in public speaking is worth the cost. Many speakers are hampered by trying to follow all the “rules” they have learned in their classes. In Part 2 we list some things that you should keep in mind if you have participated in some type of training in the past:

1. There is no single “right way” to present. 

You are unique to yourself. Even among trainers in public speaking, each one of them has their own style. Interpersonal communication is how you can be yourself and be effective in conveying your message.

2. Great presenters don’t follow rules.

If you think about Steve Jobs or if you can watch a few TED Talks, you will realize that nobody follows certain rules. They are just being their authentic selves. They vary their behaviors, techniques, and frameworks. Watch a few TED Talks, you’ll find plenty of reticent, wonky presenters who are fascinating. Real presenters don’t follow the rules. Authenticity overrides form and that authenticity creates the trust and bond that establishes credibility, and with that, everything falls into place.

3. You already know how to do this.  

People know how to communicate authentically and present ideas in their own naturally effective way. You do it all the time with friends and family members. It’s when you’re under stress and in anxiety-filled situations that you forget what you already know. Instead of putting all that pressure on yourself about: 

•how you’re presenting,

•what you’re saying,

•how you are saying it, 

•whether you are using the right form, try this:

The next time you’re discussing an issue in a relaxed situation, notice your body language. I teach body language and ego states; what I speak about all over the world is how to close the deal 98% of the time through profiling, which actually means body language, ego states, and personality types. When you can read other people, you can actually communicate better and sell better. But when it comes to your speaking and your business, you don’t have to adopt somebody else’s meaning of what speaking is, you just have to be you.

Put yourself in real-life situations, starting small, where you can practice and build confidence. That’s how you’re going to be, in your own way, the best speaker ever.

If you want to, contact me and learn about our next Speaker Training Bootcamp which is not about training speakers but about you practicing, getting feedback on your own authenticity so that you can sound authentic even if you’re feeling nervous. To learn more, go to speakertrainingbootcamp.com and/or contact me for a free 20-minute consultation at orlyamor.com.

 

Orly Amor
orly@orlyamor.com
www.orlyamor.com
917-515-6803

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